2015 has been a year filled with lots of ups and equally as many downs. Here are the five biggest lessons that I have learnt this year and hope to implement further into 2016:
- Stand up for yourself – Be Assertive
Now, anyone who knows me will tell you that I usually suck at this one. I have been a walking talking door-mat for as long as I can remember. Never standing up for myself and just going with the flow even if it was making me unhappy. I haven’t fully embraced this one yet, but a few little bits have crept in towards the end of the year.
- Don’t give a monkeys about what other people think about you
This is something that gets easier the older you get. My teenage years were filled with worrying whether people liked me and wondering what people thought of me. It is liberating to just not care but it isn’t the easiest task. Once I realised that not everyone is going to like me and that that’s okay, I stopped trying to impress the wrong people. At the end of the day, it’s not their life so you need to live it the way that you feel happiest, looking back on it, what works for others may not always work for you and vice versa. If you think my hobbies are boring or don’t like my personality, good for you but don’t bring that negativity to my life please. Move – Along!
- Don’t let the bastards get you down.
This year, I have really struggled with letting other people define my happiness and controlling it. The only one that can create happiness for myself is myself and I have slowly started to realise that whilst I am allowed to get upset about things that happen, I shouldn’t let it define every aspect of my life and make me miserable.
- There is no shame in asking for help.
2015 saw me head back to therapy and start counselling sessions along side. I’m always nervous about going to stuff like this as I fear that people think it’s me being weak but this year I had an overwhelming amount of support during my therapy process. Whether it be the two friends who after every session wanted to know how I got on and what my tasks were for the week, to the colleagues and friends who would check up on me regularly. They didn’t bring one ounce of judgement with them. I have also been a bit more vocal about mental health this year on Social Media and have received a few really sweet, thoughtful and inspiring private messages from Facebook friends who are going through similar and have said that I inspire them, which is insane!!
- Friendship outlives your surroundings
This year has seen my best friend move jobs along with nearly half my team and it was definitely something that scared me. There has always been a pattern with my friendships, a lot of time when they don’t have to spend 5 days a week with me, the contact just seems to drop until eventually the relationship fizzles out completely, but this year has made me reassess my assumption. Me and Chandler still speak just as often and actually have more to catch up on, as we are not with each-other 24/7 and I still speak and see the old team as often as possible.
And a sixth more light hearted one
- I learnt that it was possible for Beiber to bang out some awesome tunes. Beiber fever anyone??
What are the five things that you have learnt this year? Let me know in the comments below as I would love to find out.
Until Next Time,
Laugh, Love and Shop