Charlotte Chats: Don’t Tell Me They are Not Real – My Internet Friends are real Friends

“Depth of friendship does not depend on length of acquaintance” – Rabindranath Tagore


Friendship wether near or far, wether in person or on your phone. Friendship is what makes the world turn, what makes you feel valued. Friendship makes your days sparkle.

But do you have to see them face to face for it to count? Do you even have to have met them?

If you were my parents the answer yes and yes, gone are the days where they still believe that everyone on the internet is out to get you or some middle aged pervert. But they are still skeptical with how well you can really know or really connect with someone who you can not see in person. The main problem with my ‘internet friendships’ is just that, when I have to explain them to ‘real’ friends and family. Until you experience one of your own you cannot really understand the bond and the help that your pocket friend can give you.

I’ve had internet friends for as long as I can remember. My very first, an Australian girl I spoke to through tumblr helped me through the attempted suicide of my friend when I was a teenager, and helped me navigate my first crush.

That was real 

Alice, Anna, Lexie, Tanya, Karis and Rachel and All my blogging friendships started off on twitter and now they are some of the best girls I know and I know I can rely on them for anything. A shoulder to cry on, advice or help in any way I need. The perfect shopping buddies and the ones you can drown your sorrows with 2 for 1 cocktails in the middle of the afternoon. These friendships are easier for people to accept as I have met them in person and hang out with them on the regular but they started off just the same way – a DM, a tweet or a blog comment.

They are real 

Then there is my fandom friends. The only ones who truly understand how much Shadowhunters has changed my life, who will be there with a Matthew Daddario gif to cheer me up, a voice memo, the people who draw fan art for you and fangirl over your otp with you. There are a handful of girls I will probably never get to meet Dev, Vero, Lexi, Erika, Ace, Anne and Emi to name but a few and that doesn’t lessen how much they add to my life and then there is the ones who I have met . Lolly, Karo, Anissa, Nessa, Anja, Emma, Lea, Iida, Jenni and Sara to name a few – and I can tell you it was amazing. To have all of us together celebrating the very thing that brought us together. Its magic. They have become my rock, my lifeline when I felt like I was drowning. We are even already planning a reunion for #THOS3!

we may be separated by oceans, timezones and borders but those friendships are real too. 

I never make the distinction in conversation they are just my friends. Society tries to separate them out into what is real and what isn’t but not me. We know each others stories, we learn about each others cultures and points of view and most importantly we are there for each other when times are tough.

What has your experience been with ‘internet friendships’ – let me know in the comments below.

Until next time

Charlotte xoxox

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